That thing you can’t face.
All the things you resist.
And run from.
These people, places, stories, feelings, and fears are the real-life monsters in your closet, and as long as you allow—or force—them to stay hidden, they will run your life.
How is that?
Because these ugly, grotesque creatures worm their way into a position of prominence—one that keeps you spending increasing amounts of time, energy & effort to keep them secured under lock & key.
Hiding. Disguising. Numbing. Denying. Compartmentalizing. Justifying. Pretending they’re not there. Doing whatever it takes to not have to face them. Doing everything you can to not have to be with them. To not look at, touch, feel, interact with, or come close enough to smell them. Keeping them imprisoned and holding the door shut with all of your might so they can’t escape. (And the thought of anyone else knowing they exist? Absolutely shuddering.)
The effect >> Your monsters have you at their beck and call. They are calling the shots. They are keeping you small, holding you back from your Purpose and from being the best-version-of-yourself. THEY are running your life, and YOU are allowing it to happen.
It’s not dire straits, however. If you want to take back your power and put yourself in charge of your life once again, there is a simple solution to reverse the situation. It just requires a little bit of courage.
Face your monsters.
Okay, you might need a lot of courage—but speaking from experience, it’s really more the idea of doing so that’s the scariest part. The how-to goes like this: Grab the biggest flashlight you can find (along with a buddy or a monster-fighting pro if you need one); throw open the closet door; and neutralize those little turds by shining a spotlight in their eyes.
You ARE strong enough to handle whatever happens when you bring them into the light.
The monsters in your closet are real, and you can stop allowing them to run your life. ‘Cause it’s time to get on with the great work you’re meant for in this world.
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” – Maya Angelou, Letter to My Daughter
As humans, our little peanut brains are under constant vigilance to insulate and protect us from bad things. We’re hard-wired for this >> it’s a left-over from the caveman days.
We try our hardest to live and act in ways that allow for maximum control of our circumstances, environment and our person so that the “bad” is limited — or at least if it happens, it’s something we’ve already planned and prepared ourselves. (Mentally, anyway.)
I’m convinced we’re all control freaks. At least in this sense.
Except, the only thing we’re really doing is creating an artificial reality and preventing ourselves from truly experiencing the full spectrum of life. We are impeding our own happiness.
Here’s the truth about life:
The bad stuff is going to happen.
There is nothing we can do to stop it – it’s part of the human experience. We WILL experience shame, blame, judgment, and criticism. Same goes for pain, suffering, trauma, drama, loss, rejection, heartbreak, and other people’s shitty behavior. Catastrophes, tragedy, acts of God… << yep, those too.
We can’t prevent any of these things, but we can choose to not allow them to make us small. To keep us small. To break us. Or be fundamentally reduced by them. These are the things that ARE within our control.
We get to choose how we react.
We get to choose our response.
We get to choose how we allow the events to impact us and our life going forward.
We get to choose to leverage our circumstances to become a better version of ourselves.
We get to choose to rise, conquer, survive, and ultimately THRIVE.
In 2016 may you—
: Inspire courage
: Live, love and lead with wholeheartedness
: Rise each day to conquer
: Dare greatly
: Ignite your soul
: Give relentlessly
: BE more and DO less
: Tune in[ward] and listen
: Practice gratitude
: Discover the best-version-of-yourself
And choose happy every single day of this year. You’re in charge of your life. Say yes to joy, vibrancy & deep fulfillment.
Courage is tangible. It’s choosing action in the face of the fear that so desperately tries to hold you hostage.
Tell all your heart.
Follow your intuition.
(All this while manhandling your fear.)
Work and career. Health, wellness, and fitness. Money. Relationships. Your wildest aspirations and most soul-satisfying dreams. We set goals in life because something inspires us to do so. Namely, we get motivated to achieve something by envisioning a sexy end result. (For the record, that’s not a bad thing.)
There is a minor problem with motivation, however. Namely: It’s fueled by feelings. Feelings wake up the excitement and passion, but they aren’t actually what get results.
Commitment is what gets results.
Commitment at a level that is ALL-IN regardless of how you woke up feeling today. Doing and being in such a way that you are loyal to what you said you were going to do even if it’s a struggle. Or it’s hard. Or you don’t want to. Or you’d rather do something else.
If you say you’re committed, and you’re accepting less than results, then you’re not actually committed. (<< This is the litmus test.)
Climb to a 30,000 foot view of your life (annual goals, anyone?) for a minute. Where are you truly committed, in action, and making forward progress? Where has your interest and/or feelings waned? Where do you need to recommit?