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Perfection: Let it Go

January 21, 2018

I’m a recovering perfectionist. Well, some days I’m “recovering” and other days I’m off the wagon and way out in the tullie weeds, sweating and shaking and needing a fix. (It’s a process, okay?)

What I’ve learned:
Striving for excellence is valuable.
Maintaining a high standard for quality is important.
Seeking out ways to improve and be even better next time is rewarding.
Accomplishment—getting shit done—is deeply satisfying.
Chasing perfection is exhausting and a waste of time.

In fact, I’ve added Perfection to my mortal enemies list.

It’s unattainable. A forever moving target—that you’ll never catch and will only drive you crazy. An obstacle to creativity, freedom, happiness, success, and achievement. It’s a paralyzing inner voice that holds you hostage and will always tell you you’re not enough. (Cue the wicked cackling.)

But that’s just perfection’s bullshit story. And once you see it for what it is, you can choose to let it go.

Love. Kyleigh

Where is perfectionism currently holding you back in your life?

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2018: Gladiating + Getting Personal

January 14, 2018

I’m getting personal with this post. Practicing what I preach, giving you a look at my own inner work, and also going public with some of my personal commitments for the year. 20 seconds of insane courage…

Five and a half years ago I launched The Live Huge Factor…and I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. The only thing I knew for sure was that I was Called. Called with a capital ‘C’ by the Big Guy one morning while I was brushing my teeth. “It’s time,” He said. Which meant it was time to leave the soul suck of my day job, take a leap of faith, and journey down a new path. Out of that, The Live Huge Factor was born.

Turns out this new path is one of those “roads less traveled”, and what I’ve had to learn is that I’m in charge of blazing the trail. Since launching The Live Huge Factor in 2012, I’ve started and stopped (mostly stopped these last 2 ½ years), had moments of brilliance, and also fallen flat on my face. I have an unwavering vision of a successful coaching and leadership development practice; and yet my truth is that I’ve struggled to get my business off the ground. As I’ve discovered in doing my own inner work, there are two big reasons behind that: (1) I’ve gotten in my own way; and (2) I haven’t been all in.

And, the reason underlying both of those reasons: FEAR.

(Shocker.)

The message reel has gone a little something like this: Who am I to do this work? I’m not enough. I’m not qualified. Nobody cares. Nobody will listen. People will laugh. Nobody will show up. They don’t need you. They will reject you. Other people are better and more qualified than you. There’s no room for you. More truth: I’m tired of allowing my fear to run the show, and I’m not interested in listening to these crap stories anymore.

This past year I’ve been blessed to get very clear on my mission. My WHY. And in doing so, I had a critical revelation: My mission is fucking important. It is (and will be into the future) important to the people I am meant to serve AND it’s mine alone. There is no one else in this world who can do what I am Called to do. [To be clear, you also have a unique purpose in this world that only you alone can fulfill.]

This year—2018—I am rebirthing The Live Huge Factor. My personal commitment is to two things: Mission First and Gladiating. (<< In fact, ‘gladiate’ is my word for the year.) I am all in to putting my message & content into the world. I am all in to doing what it takes to create the business of my dreams. I am all in to showing up [messy, vulnerable & absolutely imperfect] and battling in the ring every day. And most importantly, I am all in to coaching, teaching, and calling people forth to transform their lives and become who they are meant to be.

Cheers to adventure and the next 12 months. I can’t wait to connect with you along the way!

Love. Kyleigh

How about you—what is one of your commitments or focus areas for this year?

Question: What Are You Consuming Today?

February 19, 2017
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WE BECOME THE STORIES WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH.Tweet: We become the stories we surround ourselves with. What are you consuming today? https://ctt.ec/2Lc89+ #liveundaunted #livehugefactor

What we read. What we hear. Who we hang out with.

Where we spend our time.

 

And the fact is…

GARBAGE IN = GARBAGE OUT

That’s the law of consumption.

 

What are you consuming on a daily basis?


*Today’s post is inspired by the work of Matthew Kelly. (<< Seriously good stuff.)

Liar, Liar. Your Pants on Totally on Fire.

October 13, 2016

fear

Today is the day I am calling you out.

 
Every time you say I CAN’T.
Every time you believe I AM NOT ENOUGH.

YOU ARE SPREADING A LIE. (<< About yourself.)

That is your fear talking, feeding you a bullshit story that has nothing to do with the truth about you and everything to do with IT maintaining its power over you. Keeping you small and preventing you from being your most powerful, meant-to-be self.

And, love, you are a sucker every time you fall for it.

Here’s the TRUTH: Your fear-voice is a master politician who manipulates, shape-shifts, and spews garbage to keep you spinning round and round. Loud & obnoxious or sweet, seductive & smooth-talking—it disguises itself telling you anything and everything to keep you believing the lies.

So,

Every time you say I CAN’T,
Every time you think I AM NOT ENOUGH,

Stop and ask yourself: What’s the lie?

Learn to recognize that voice and see your fear for what it is >> False Evidence Appearing Real.

This is your work.

Love. Kyleigh

What You Can’t Be With Runs Your Life

March 29, 2016

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That thing you can’t face.
Admit to.
Speak about.
Or own.

All the things you resist.
Avoid.
Keep secret.
Bury.
And run from.

These people, places, stories, feelings, and fears are the real-life monsters in your closet, and as long as you allow—or force—them to stay hidden, they will run your life.

How is that?

Because these ugly, grotesque creatures worm their way into a position of prominence—one that keeps you spending increasing amounts of time, energy & effort to keep them secured under lock & key.

Hiding. Disguising. Numbing. Denying. Compartmentalizing. Justifying. Pretending they’re not there. Doing whatever it takes to not have to face them. Doing everything you can to not have to be with them. To not look at, touch, feel, interact with, or come close enough to smell them. Keeping them imprisoned and holding the door shut with all of your might so they can’t escape. (And the thought of anyone else knowing they exist? Absolutely shuddering.)

The effect >> Your monsters have you at their beck and call. They are calling the shots. They are keeping you small, holding you back from your Purpose and from being the best-version-of-yourself. THEY are running your life, and YOU are allowing it to happen.

It’s not dire straits, however. If you want to take back your power and put yourself in charge of your life once again, there is a simple solution to reverse the situation. It just requires a little bit of courage.

Face your monsters.

Okay, you might need a lot of courage—but speaking from experience, it’s really more the idea of doing so that’s the scariest part. The how-to goes like this: Grab the biggest flashlight you can find (along with a buddy or a monster-fighting pro if you need one); throw open the closet door; and neutralize those little turds by shining a spotlight in their eyes.

You ARE strong enough to handle whatever happens when you bring them into the light.

The monsters in your closet are real, and you can stop allowing them to run your life. ‘Cause it’s time to get on with the great work you’re meant for in this world.

WHAT YOU CAN’T BE WITH RUNS YOUR LIFE. Tweet: What you can't be with runs your life. http://ctt.ec/Z1ASL+ #liveundaunted #livehugefactor

Love. Kyleigh