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Being Comfortable is the Wrong Goal

March 25, 2018

When we feel discomfort, we default to seeking what is more comfortable. Comfort is, well, comfortable—it’s familiar, easy, and soothing, and our natural human programming likes us to feel this way. In fact, we usually go out of our way to AVOID what will make us uncomfortable, because our carefully calibrated internal alarms start shrieking when we approach the “Danger Zone of Discomfort”—

Tough conversations.
Putting yourself out there with the possibility of rejection.
Being vulnerable.
Being wrong.
Failing.
Changing.
Crying in public.
Living with less stuff. Or less than the best stuff.
Giving from your poverty.
Giving up the illusion of perfection.
Taking action to get unstuck.
Standing in your truth in a room full of people who disagree with you.
Refusing to try something new and different because you’ll probably suck at it.
Loving the people in your life unconditionally.
Leaving a shitty relationship because you’d be alone.
Ditching a soul-sucking job because you’d have to start over.

The threat of these things (and countless others) drive us to seek the shelter of our comfort zone, because we believe it keeps us safe from life’s unpleasantness. The thing is, it doesn’t.

Staying in your comfort zone all the time just makes you lazy.Tweet: Staying in your comfort zone all the time just makes you lazy. #speaktruth #liveundaunted https://ctt.ec/2dw0Z+

It’s the equivalent of super-gluing your butt to the sofa and turning it into your office—Netflix remote in one hand, tub of chocolate chip ice cream in the other, and smartphone nestled in the pocket of your Snuggie. Every day. All day. With this as the only aspiration of your life.

Is this really how you want to live?

The comfort of a life in sweatpants is tempting, but it will never make you happy. (No. NO! Uh-uh. Really, it won’t.) There’s no challenge, no adventure, no movement, no connection, no goals, no dreams, no achievement, no success, and definitely no fulfillment or satisfaction—just stagnation and a lot aloneness. Here’s the Truth:

Being comfortable is the wrong goal.Tweet: Being comfortable is the wrong goal. https://ctt.ec/me2h8+ #speaktruth #liveundaunted

It’s only when you reach the end of your comfort zone and challenge the boundaries you find there that you can GROW. Personal growth is the birthplace of happiness. It’s the vital component to finding out who you are and what your life is about, and it’s the means to becoming who you are meant to be. Whenever you avoid discomfort, you push away your greatest opportunity to grow—and ultimately you reject your own happiness.

An undaunted life—one that is filled with joy, vibrancy + deep fulfillment—begins at the END of your comfort zone. Whenever you feel discomfort, it means you’ve reached that outer limit. Your Work is to bust through it and then keep on going.

Love. Kyleigh

P.S. Here’s some musical inspiration for you as you hop some fences and start exploring what’s on the other side of your comfort zone: https://youtu.be/lq5vrpwdMGM

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1 Year. 1 Project. 100 Powerful Conversations.

March 16, 2018

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THIS is the miracle of coaching.

1 Year. 100 Powerful Conversations.
I am taking on a bold challenge this year to share the power of coaching. My goal is to—

Create intentional impact in the world by having 100 deep coaching conversations with 100 inspired + inspiring individuals.

Coaching changes lives. It is a game-changing tool that creates a positive ripple effect in the world. When a person shows up differently in their life, and starts creating results they never thought possible, the impact automatically extends to their relationships, their work, and world around them. Every time I work with someone, I get to see this evidence first hand, and I am fired up about giving people the opportunity to experience it for themselves.

This is what The 100 Conversations Project is all about. Helping people to see their world differently and change their lives so they can:

> Unbecome who they aren’t…and become who they are meant to be.
> Get into the kind of action that leads to true happiness and results in a vibrant, meaningful, deeply fulfilling life.
> Achieve what they really, really, really, REALLY want.
> Claim their greatness, discover their Purpose and become naturally confident, courageous leaders.

And I’m ALL IN, wholeheartedly committed to the success of this project. One thing though, it’s not going to be possible to do this alone—may I enlist your help?

The Project. The Coaching. The Invitation.
The 100 Conversations Project has begun, and I am creating space each month for the next year (April 2019) to sit down with inspired + inspiring individuals for a powerful conversation to challenge their status quo and amplify their leadership.

This is the type of person I’m looking for – someone who:

  • Desires to step fully into their personal leadership, and start leading boldly, confidently & courageously at work and in all areas of their lives.
  • Serves extra-ordinarily in what they do every day (or aspires to do so).
  • Wants to create positive impact in their world and THE world.
  • Are willing to be the hardest worker in the room to go after something they really, really, REALLY want.
  • Knows they are responsible for their own happiness and the experience of their life—and are intent on taking action accordingly.
  • Are ready for (and want) game-changing support to help them achieve a goal that feels “impossible” right now, tackle a challenge they’re currently facing, or transform an area where they are currently unsatisfied.

Do you know anyone like that?

I would like to invite them to be one of the 100. To sit down with me for 2 hours of deep coaching and see the possibilities of transforming something (or things) in their life.

They bring the topic. Nothing is off limits; we can discuss anything in their work or life. I’ll bring the coaching, hiding nothing and holding nothing back. Together we’ll have an unforgettable, life-transforming conversation.

No gimmicks. No strings. No pressure. No bull. And no cost (coaching fee waived). Just one requirement: To accept the invitation, each person must commit to showing up to their session fully present—100% invested with their time & energy—and with a willingness to explore wherever the conversation leads. This experience is about getting results, and results are a participatory activity.

My Big Ask—WHO DO YOU KNOW?
Who has popped into your mind as you’ve been reading about this project? A friend. Your spouse. Your brother. A co-worker. The woman from yoga class. The parent of your child’s best buddy. Someone from church. Maybe even…yourself.

Do them a favor, and plug-in to that person for a minute. What’s her big dream? What do you think is holding him back most right now? What support does he need in his life? What might be possible for him or her if they had the opportunity for a powerful, deep coaching conversation? I’d love to talk to them. Will you send them this post and give them the gift of an invitation to be one of the 100?

My gift to them from you. Because you believe in them. And so do I. (Share this post and my contact information with them.)

Or, if it’s YOU who is saying, “YES. That’s ME!” >> Contact me here to request a powerful conversation. (I admire your spunk. And your propensity for action.)

And of course, if you want more information, send me an email with your questions.

Nobody needs coaching. This is something I truly believe. For those who want powerful coaching however—to work on a goal or challenge with someone who can help you connect-your-dots and see things you can’t, or to experience high-flame coaching with someone who believes you are fully capable of achieving what you most desire—this is a chance to level up your life + leadership and start creating the life you are meant to live.

Tweet: What if one opportunity could change your life? Forever. https://ctt.ec/8ca63 #100conversationsproject #livehugefactor #liveundaunted (Tweet this!)

Knock, knock.
Who’s there?
Opportunity.

Perfection: Let it Go

January 21, 2018

I’m a recovering perfectionist. Well, some days I’m “recovering” and other days I’m off the wagon and way out in the tullie weeds, sweating and shaking and needing a fix. (It’s a process, okay?)

What I’ve learned:
Striving for excellence is valuable.
Maintaining a high standard for quality is important.
Seeking out ways to improve and be even better next time is rewarding.
Accomplishment—getting shit done—is deeply satisfying.
Chasing perfection is exhausting and a waste of time.

In fact, I’ve added Perfection to my mortal enemies list.

It’s unattainable. A forever moving target—that you’ll never catch and will only drive you crazy. An obstacle to creativity, freedom, happiness, success, and achievement. It’s a paralyzing inner voice that holds you hostage and will always tell you you’re not enough. (Cue the wicked cackling.)

But that’s just perfection’s bullshit story. And once you see it for what it is, you can choose to let it go.

Love. Kyleigh

Where is perfectionism currently holding you back in your life?

2018: Gladiating + Getting Personal

January 14, 2018

I’m getting personal with this post. Practicing what I preach, giving you a look at my own inner work, and also going public with some of my personal commitments for the year. 20 seconds of insane courage…

Five and a half years ago I launched The Live Huge Factor…and I had absolutely no idea what I was doing. The only thing I knew for sure was that I was Called. Called with a capital ‘C’ by the Big Guy one morning while I was brushing my teeth. “It’s time,” He said. Which meant it was time to leave the soul suck of my day job, take a leap of faith, and journey down a new path. Out of that, The Live Huge Factor was born.

Turns out this new path is one of those “roads less traveled”, and what I’ve had to learn is that I’m in charge of blazing the trail. Since launching The Live Huge Factor in 2012, I’ve started and stopped (mostly stopped these last 2 ½ years), had moments of brilliance, and also fallen flat on my face. I have an unwavering vision of a successful coaching and leadership development practice; and yet my truth is that I’ve struggled to get my business off the ground. As I’ve discovered in doing my own inner work, there are two big reasons behind that: (1) I’ve gotten in my own way; and (2) I haven’t been all in.

And, the reason underlying both of those reasons: FEAR.

(Shocker.)

The message reel has gone a little something like this: Who am I to do this work? I’m not enough. I’m not qualified. Nobody cares. Nobody will listen. People will laugh. Nobody will show up. They don’t need you. They will reject you. Other people are better and more qualified than you. There’s no room for you. More truth: I’m tired of allowing my fear to run the show, and I’m not interested in listening to these crap stories anymore.

This past year I’ve been blessed to get very clear on my mission. My WHY. And in doing so, I had a critical revelation: My mission is fucking important. It is (and will be into the future) important to the people I am meant to serve AND it’s mine alone. There is no one else in this world who can do what I am Called to do. [To be clear, you also have a unique purpose in this world that only you alone can fulfill.]

This year—2018—I am rebirthing The Live Huge Factor. My personal commitment is to two things: Mission First and Gladiating. (<< In fact, ‘gladiate’ is my word for the year.) I am all in to putting my message & content into the world. I am all in to doing what it takes to create the business of my dreams. I am all in to showing up [messy, vulnerable & absolutely imperfect] and battling in the ring every day. And most importantly, I am all in to coaching, teaching, and calling people forth to transform their lives and become who they are meant to be.

Cheers to adventure and the next 12 months. I can’t wait to connect with you along the way!

Love. Kyleigh

How about you—what is one of your commitments or focus areas for this year?

Question: What Are You Consuming Today?

February 19, 2017
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WE BECOME THE STORIES WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH.Tweet: We become the stories we surround ourselves with. What are you consuming today? https://ctt.ec/2Lc89+ #liveundaunted #livehugefactor

What we read. What we hear. Who we hang out with.

Where we spend our time.

 

And the fact is…

GARBAGE IN = GARBAGE OUT

That’s the law of consumption.

 

What are you consuming on a daily basis?


*Today’s post is inspired by the work of Matthew Kelly. (<< Seriously good stuff.)